If there is any problem in the family, such as someone not speaking to the other or having no contact, and the other family members have problems too, the family members can decide to take the initiative together. Insha’Allah (God willing) if there is a way, I would like to take part in the forgiveness of this debt, and also be a part of the blessing of the rest of your family. They must go to that relative, and tell them: It may be that a relative of theirs has gone on a pilgrimage, or has received a great blessing.
People might not speak to each other, or might even move in and out of different groups, as they are scared of conflict.įamily members need to take advantage of the family to resolve their differences. Often there are disagreements in families, and these disagreements can lead to animosity, conflicts, and quarrels. This brings me to another way of resolving conflict. He says: “This is my Decree, that I will (not) make good partners for you” (Qur’an 9:36). What ails you, or has been troubling you, is the Divine Decree of Allah. It is even better to ask the family members to stand as a united front. Whatever the family members are feeling is best dealt with by asking them to take the first step, and in asking them to do so, it is necessary to take care of the first step as well, just like the first half of the Surah says:īefore making any attack, ask: ‘Where is your Lord? Has He left you? Are you living by your means? Who is there with you?’ There is a difference between asking Allah to help you and asking someone else to help you. What do the family members who are on the receiving end of a conflict have to do? It depends on whether they want to resolve their conflict on their own, or if they want to seek help from another family member or another (tariqa) of the Qur’an. Confronting someone with anger only causes difficulty in the family and is the worst thing to do. When one person has any disagreement, it should be taken care of with sensitivity, patience, love, and understanding, and not with anger. Confront them, not against (ina’atu) Allah, but (ina’atu) themselves. One of you who has any disagreement, (park) confront them. You are in the company of your relatives (ina’atu tabarruk). Allah (SWT) has also said in the same Surah:
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